Dr. Kelsey Graham

Non-judgmental affair of the heart

Dr, Kelsey Graham Ministries is a wedding officiant and premarital counseling company operating out of Alabaster, AL. Dr Kelsey is an experienced ordained minister that is honored to help nearlyweds celebrate their joyous day. He strives to create unique services for every couple he serves, incorporating their personal beliefs, preferences, and ideas.

Love is in the air… (By Dr Kelsey Graham)

The heart is not the best organ to represent love. Let me explain love.

We use symbols to paint a visual of love. Most commonly, that symbol is a heart. As we stand here, we see a lot of pleasing aesthetics and well-groomed, attractive people. Clothed in a way that is very pleasing to the eyes. Flowers, bouquets. Decorations. All the dressings. All the things we have grown to expect in this ritual we call a wedding. It all looks good. All around us, people see this symbol as representing love.

HEARTS. Two hearts joined. I love you with all my heart. Hearts galore!

We have all these parts down, right?

We have the aesthetics of love all together. Look at her dress! Isn’t it the most gorgeous you have ever seen? Look at how handsome the groom is!!! What a lovely LOOKING couple.Yes we have all the superficial parts of love in place.

The heart…..However in reality the heart is not a good symbol to represent love. For the heart is an organ that expresses, really nothing.If we must use an organ of the body to represent love it should be the lungs. Because .. a whisper. When you answer the phone without looking at your caller ID and you hear that one voice. That unique, distinctive voice. You know. That voice that moves you so strongly is produced by air. Oxygen forced out of the lungs.

Breathless…..

The words I am using here today are words that you hear as I try to express the emotion of love, love between these two people- words produced because of my lungs. The influx of my voice is controlled by the amount of air I allow out of my lungs to form these words from my vocal cords. Vocal cords that are vibrated by the air from my lungs.

When two lovers press their faces close to each other, compressing their lips, mouth to mouth, the intimacy of that act is felt so deeply, not just by the flesh touchin, but also because of the exchange of oxygen, breath, air.

In fact, the purpose of the heart is to deliver oxygen to the other parts of the body, which is oxygen supplied by the lungs. The whisper of the words- I LOVE YOU! Softly spoken in the ear of your lover. The filling of the lungs with as much oxygen as they will hold so that you can cry out to the world. I LOVE THIS PERSON!

The lungs= the organ we use to show our love. The gasp of air we take when we first see or meet this one special person.

We seek to impress- with our words. We grope, grasping for the right words to use. Those who choose to write their own vows want to make certain they utter the words that are the most powerful, the most moving- and we strive to utter those words in a manner.